What’s the secret to teenage happiness?

Well if you have been reading this blog you have probably spotted it already, despite issues re friends, fitting in, school…, in general, at the heart of teenagers happiness; it is family, it is family, it is family.   We carried out an analysis of results from our 2007 survey of 9107 New Zealand high…

SPARX e-therapy for depression now online in NZ

Terry: I’m delighted to announce that SPARX computerised therapy for teenagers feeling down or depressed is being made freely available in New Zealand via the Ministry of Health today. The short story is that SPARX is a computer program for learning and practising skills for dealing with feeling down or depressed. It uses gaming elements…

It was my terrible secret

ML: I knew I was different from a very young age, by the time I was a teenager I knew I was gay – it was my ‘terrible secret’. Unfortunately for me I grew up in rural New Zealand (I would have fitted in much better in New York or London as an adolescent) I…

David, parent of 3 girls

David is a parent of three girls, aged 25 16 and 13. 1. Tell us about a time when you ‘felt the love’, felt connected or close to your teen: Driving two of them to school in the morning and being part of cool three way conversations about friendships, school, growing up and family. 2.…

Lonely teens

Recently I did an interview for TVNZ Sunday programme.  In it we talked about how teenagers are primed to be social. They are wired that way (so are lots of other mammals at the same life stage, even adolescent rats I believe). They are wired to care about social status and to want friends, probably…

Colleen, ex teen

On the whole I was pretty well cared for as a teen, however there were some nights where I needed to escape my house. I had a holiday job, so can remember from the age of 12 booking into a motel. The proprietors looked at me very suspiciously so weren’t very friendly, and it used…

Locking teens up till they’re 30

Once Mum of Two had submitted her post about looking forward to having teens, she said “In a way, I feel like saying ‘I want to lock my kids up until they are 30’”. Not that she would – but there is that wish to protect them. That sense of wanting to lock ‘em up…